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We all build relationships based on trust.   Some relationships require more trust than others. For example, marriage, medical professionals and hiring lawyers.   We all take the time to explore whether these relationships are the right fit for us.   We even memorialize these important, sometimes life-changing, relationships with contractual agreements.   But when it comes to the relationship with your employer, you might as well start hand feeding piranhas.


An antagonist is someone who actively opposes or is hostile to another; an adversary.   Does this describe your current or former employer? In my role as the employment attorney, I do not hear very many people say they trust their employers. In fact, the opposite is true.   According to a Harvard Business Review  article, œIn both your personal life and your work life, you’re bound to encounter people who take advantage of you, and these painful experiences can make you cynical.
You have several reasons to be cynical about your employment relationship.   Your employer is not interested in whether you are happy at work, fulfilled in your career aspirations, concerned about your personal responsibilities at work or anything remotely realistic to a nurturing relationship.   In fact many employees have a low level of trust in their employers.   The  2016 Trust Barometer report from Edelman  revealed that a third of employees do not trust their employers. Employees reported a lack of engagement, short term profit seeking, lack of belief in the company mission, poor product quality, unethical behavior, bad corporate reputation, invisible CEOs and lack of corporate communication to employees.


When you are employed at-will, as most of you are, you might as well be on a first date for the next several years.   You would think that after knowing your employer for three or more years, you’d just settle down and get engaged to be married. However this is not so.   Unless you have a coveted and rare employment contract with a œfor cause termination provision, your employer can bounce you with little or no notice.   Many of you have felt this scorned feeling from prior jobs.  So where is the trust in the at-will workplace if you can never predict your future with a reasonable certainty on a day-to-day basis? There is none.   Ouch!

Somehow, we have just grown accustomed to this dysfunctional at-will relationship and let employers manipulate us with unenforced corporate codes of conduct, lofty corporate double speak and fear.


The most common corporate management practice today is to maintain a consistent level of passive-aggressive practices which propagate employee fear and insecurity. From my vantage point, I see a persistent pattern by employers accusing employees of subjective performance issues while their objective performance criteria are œmeets or œexceeds expectation.   Employers use performance management techniques such as performance improvement plans and coaching to force out undesirable employees.   No one ever remains long after being managed this way. I also see cases of overt ruthless conduct, where a supervisor  discriminates against pregnant employees  as having œbaby brain. Saying things like, œI don’t want another woman working on the desk or œIf you’re being honest with yourself, do you really think you could do this job?   And the comments get even worse. œI don’t want to hear any complaining from you, you and [spouse] did this to yourselves. Only a supervisor with intentions to rid themselves of pregnant employees will make discriminatory statements like this to push the employee to quit out of fear of reprisal.


The absence of trust becomes more noticeable when employees experience  discrimination  in the workplace or need to take time off due to health issues affecting themselves or a family member.   For these employees, their career with their particular employer has taken an abrupt turn for the worse.
For example, you become pregnant while employed and take a maternity/paternity leave under company policy and FMLA.   When you return, your job duties have changed and so has the person you reported to.    Pregnancy discrimination  is one of the most perverse examples of a lack of trust an employee can encounter.   The employer has a maternity leave policy and you take a leave under said policy with no resistance.   However, upon returning to work you face pregnancy discrimination when your employment is terminated.   The employer will jump at an opportunity to replace you rather than reinstate you.   We would all agree, this is not an ideal trust building experience at any company, yet pregnancy discrimination continues to persist.

If you complain to your employer about issues of discrimination or whistle blowing, you will immediately cause your employer not to trust you.   You have a legal and moral right to complain about these issues, but do not expect reciprocation from your employer.   You just threw yourself off or under the company bus.   This equals your spouse cheating on you and then pointing the finger at you as the cause for why they had the affair.   Your employer’s Human Resources Department will not help you when you are down and have complaints about coworkers or your supervisor.   I am sure the folks in HR are nice people, but their œjob is to protect the employer, not you! Don’t make the mistake in confiding with human resource personnel, unless absolutely necessary to build a case for retaliation.


Arbitration and non-competition agreements and employer trust are like oil and water with a sprinkling of gasoline for added flare.   The U.S. Supreme Court’s further  endorsement  of employer arbitration agreements cemented in stone the future of employee litigation and the permanent role of arbitration in your career. Listen, don’t be fooled, arbitration agreements are bad for you, your rights, your claims, the economy and are only good for employers.   Noncompetition agreements are even a better example of a lack of employer trust.   When your employer is finished with you and terminates your employment, they sink a big fishing hook in you and reel you back in at their whim each time you land a new position.   The employer cries foul, complaining you are single handedly destroying the company via working for the competitor.   These two forms of employment agreements represent the worst in every company that mandates them.   An arbitration agreement is a tool to conceal bad corporate acts from employment attorneys like myself and  non-competition agreements are used to threaten  competitive employers in the market place.


It is time to call an end to bad corporate practices- the deceit, the greed, the lies and the double speak.   Employees should demand more from their employers.   Rise up and unite together and tell your employer you would trust them only if they demonstrated trust to you first.   Trust begets trust.
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